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Category "Sexual Communication"
Secret Sexual Desires
“Hello, Dr. Ren, I have a sexual problem that makes me very unhappy and could ruin my relationship.” “I’m glad you called. Please tell me what is bothering you.” “Well, that’s the thing. I’ve never spoken to anyone about this … Read More
December 2, 2011
Category Sexual Communication
First Visit Jitters
A number of clients have shared with me their reactions to their initial sex therapy visit. It might be instructive to those of you considering therapy to hear what they had to say. A man in his mid fifties told … Read More
December 2, 2011
Category Sexual Communication
Good Sexual Relationship Essentials: Easier Than You Think
This August, Vancouver hosted the 33rd annual meeting of the International Academy of Sex Research, where I was privileged to meet the stars in the field of sexuality research and to hear them present their latest findings. Among them was … Read More
December 2, 2011
Category Sexual Communication
Better Sexual Communication
Communication is an overused and misunderstood word. We generally think it means saying what we want someone else to hear and expecting them to understand the message. Actually, communication that promotes intimacy involves far more than just spoken words, and … Read More
December 2, 2011
Category Sexual Communication
Same Language, Different Dialects
Sometimes a thread weaves through one’s life for a while. So I have found it lately with the theme of male/female eroticism. I thought this was complete with October’s Hot Topic, which told of my unsuccessful search for heat at … Read More
December 2, 2011
Category Sexual Communication
Pole Dancing for You and Your Lover
A few years ago pole dancing became a new fitness craze. I’m not talking about what happens in strip clubs…that’s been popular for decades. I mean housewives and working women who plugged into gym classes that combined cardiac and aerobic … Read More
December 2, 2011
Category Sexual Communication
Code
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Relationship
I am often asked to present seminars on sexual communication and negotiation. In the preliminary part of the lecture, I examine the different types of words we use to speak about sex, from childhood vocabulary (peepee, dinkie, down there) to … Read More
December 2, 2011
Category Sexual Communication
But I Can’t Say THAT
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Relationship
- Originally published on WebOfCare.com Sexual communication? It’s easy, when our message is “Oh, Sweetheart, that was just the BEST!”. It becomes more thorny when we need to express disappointment, anger, or disinterest; and it seems futile when our partner … Read More
December 2, 2011
Category Getting Along, Sexual Communication
Sensate Focus
Sensate focus, developed about fifty years ago by the grandparents of modern sex therapy, Masters and Johnson, is a frequently-used technique for people who feel disconnected from their sexuality. It can also enable change in the sexual interactions of couples. … Read More
December 2, 2011
Category Getting It On, Sexual Communication
After the Fight
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Relationship
- Originally published on DrKoop.com When we are feeling angry, hurt, or estranged, we have less chance for success in our negotiations. Regardless of our fighting styles, we all know that we are less articulate when we are wracked with … Read More
November 24, 2011
Category Getting Along, Sexual Communication
